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Month: January 2018

One of the many believes as we grow up and belong to organizations is that the strength we have belonging to groups,  and cliques can  help us be more especially those that think like us

However, a research says we might actually need more of weak ties to make that leap from point A to Point B. In the words of Charles Duhigg in his masterpiece “Power of Habits” he cites several instances where the power of weak ties spoke more compared to familiar strong ties. One memorable instance was the Bus Boycott led by Rosa Parks in the united states of America.

Findings were clear that though Rosa Parks was in the A-league among her community influencers the driving force and momentum to start the bus boycott movement move was the combination of the weak and strong ties which wasn’t her network.Mainly the weak ties did the Magic. When strong ties of friendship and weak ties of peer pressure meet, they create amazing momentum which normally leads to Amaze- ball social change.

“ Sometimes our weak-tie acquaintances are more influential than our close tie individuals. Without weak-ties, We will be deprived of information of the social system and be confined to the provincial news and views of only close friends… This deprivation would not only insulate them from the latest ideas and fashions but may put them in a disadvantaged position in the labor market.without weak ties, any momentum generated does not spread beyond the clique”

” Culled from The Power of Habits Charles Duhigg

weak ties for starters are relationships between members of different groups aside ours for instance. you would likely find an architect in the circle of his kind or some Engineers and would be strange finding him in the midst of fashion designers or musicians.

Come to think of it the weak ties bring in a new kind of audience, help spread our message and opportunities more to different spheres

I personally have had  feedback from the effect of getting new insights from my weak ties compared to my natural pond of strong ties which led me to share this  which means you must go out of your own pond and have a mixture… your pond would not give you all you ask for and that has nothing to do with  they being great  its a natural law.

As a tech developer it’s time to go out of your own pond and create new fraternity with guys from the other side the world is more than tech and vice versa we sure need each other.

Weak ties often give us access to the social network where we don’t think necessary otherwise we would always play the safe card in a save pond and this is time to leave the safe pond to create a massive movement which we all need.

So this is me to you Weak ties are Lit !! Let’s embrace them create mixtures and create amazing memories of a solid movement!!

Its the new year and what better way to start than with the 21 day plan.

 

You may have heard a popular catchphrase that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Science and real-world experience tells us that it actually takes a MINIMUM of 21 days, but on average between 60 to 90 days. So, for most people, 90 days (or 3 months or 12 weeks—however you look at it) is a much more effective and realistic timeframe to incorporate a new behavior into your life.

 

This is how it works   normally it’s a proven research by science and real world experience that when humans practice a habit consistently(ritually) for 21 days the body and the mind most times gets used to it. Meaning it sticks .Then when they  carry it  out  this same act for 90 days  which is  like  3 months it doesn’t just become a habit it becomes a lifestyle. . So let’s say you  start  consistently for 21 days  and make it takes between 60 days to 90 days for it to be on cruise control.  For anyone who has tried this the key experience isn’t even in the numbers but mostly on what you are fast becoming   so lets assume you don’t make it in 21 days or 90 days which is normally rare you definitely would not be the same person you were when you .Started especially if you had an accountability partner and took note of the changes observed this period.

No  this isn’t about My TED Talk but you should really watch it here http://bit.ly/2pGCLkJ

I come from the part of the world where  we almost joke about  everything these days the memes on social media alone could lead you into how much creative juice we have left on the table without converting…memes that were both hilarious and struck a chord. One of such memes left a deep impression.

What would your TED talk be like?

For starters, TED is an acronym for Technology Entertainment and Design owned by  sapling foundation led by it curator Media entrepreneur Chris Anderson   All over the world the TED stage is like the Eldorado for the best Speakers, innovators, Influencers   change agents you name it …who literally have an idea worth sharing.

So if you were given the opportunity to stand on this spotlight and the whole world was meant to listen as your audience for you speak to them, what would your message worth sharing be about?

What in your journey do you think the world would learn from and when you figure out what it is, that should be your TED talk.  Scratch that, that should be your message and you don’t necessarily need a TED Stage.

Personally I think I had toiled with the thought of what mine was prior to Prior to mine  so it was not completely a struggle when I had my shot. My generation had more young people who thought they needed permission to live their dreams and I thought differently of how the world had changed and how emasculated young people have become with strategic collaborations and something as ordinary like a laptop and internet. I’ve seen the magic and still see the magic happen you are normally unstoppable.

A friend  I got talking to  had this to share when I popped up the question to him   “ I would talk about laziness and how it can completely stop you from  achieving your goals” It sounded cliché until I asked Why laziness? And he shared his story and did it make sense? Too much sauce!!  It happens he was in that Laziness cycle till he made some moves which took him to a different league where he is now and acing it.

He alone knows that feeling so if I dint probe further I would have misunderstood what  this  meant to him. So it is for what your own uniqueness is. You don’t need to sound like the rest of us. Come to think of it weird on that stage of life is the new cool and those who are weird enough to tell us how very important their own weird is wins.

What were your lessons learnt?

Feel free to re-engineer .

And yes Break your own coconut!

 

 

 

 

 

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