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Author: Charles Umeh


Anieka was born in the countryside. In his community, he was the rock star who solved various obvious problems no one earlier saw. The community needed a cobbler, so he was the best cobbler in his community. Everyone depended on his skills. Referrals favored him more. Everyone always coming back since he was the only one great at this skill the queue was always long at his doorstep which meant only when he solved each problem do we finally call it done for the day.

So someday something magical happens, Emeka comes into town with a modernized toolkit and sets up the best cobbler shop far from Aniekas’. Out of curiosity, one-day Anieka’s client walks into the office with the normal complaint he had been sharing with him for several weeks only to have his shoe fixed in record time than earlier imagined.

Only then did the whole town make a U-turn to Emeka’s service outlet. with the new information from his newest testimonial, Emeka was the new rock star.  Anieka believes Emeka must have some kind of magical powers to have dragged all his clients because it never added up. There was an Emeka who came from nowhere to ruin all his effort and spurred up this sudden exodus of clients.

“It’s true I have magic that works for me Anieka but you must come to see how it works and the best time to come would be at night” ( he never wanted to humiliate him in the presence of his clients) Emeka affirmed.

A date was fixed both men meet in the middle of the night to the surprise of Anieka there were no magic but modern tools. He was ashamed of his false assumptions but since it was the night it shielded his disappointments and tears which was only seen by Emeka who kept smiling

There and then Emeka offers to help him also become magical. Anieka smiles and apologizes for all his foolish assumptions takes the offer and embark on his journey.

Several key lessons from this story before I let you share yours below..

In the new workplace, there is no magic just modern tools that come off magical.

There are no permanent rockstars

There is always a new kid on the bloc who is ready to unlearn yesterdays magic

Assumptions can knock out even the smartest of us.

Treat your rival with respect he would never forget the new lesson you handed him at his low ebb.

What were your own lessons

Kindly share below

In the end make sure you #breakyourowncoconut

It’s an open secret we would rather put our money where our mouth is than leave it to chance. We naturally might love free things but in the long run, exclusivity need be paid for.
likewise time. A close look at our daily habits gives us a clue to what is a priority.

So let’s take you for example now you figured your special sauce, what you would love to do if money ain’t a problem, what your three friends said about you and what you would do when faced with challenges.

Take a look at your list and ask yourself what you would love to invest your money and time in for the next year to either help your special sauce or your findings from this simple exercise.
In the end, it’s all about you looking where your priorities lie and how willing you are to chase it and invest in it.The attachment we give to value changes the perspective.

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One of the first words I understood well when I hit several roadblocks on my journey was the word “learning curves”.

What do they really mean?
Every” failure” you took too personal and never saw the need to reflect over.(my lexicon)

I’m yet to hear of anyone who had a smooth sailing journey on their path to greatness. Even those still In the process had their teachable moments which always humbles the best of us.

So how do we view challenges when they come? Shut down, play the blame game or accept we goofed will still probably goof but would make sure we learn from it?

The Growth mindset tells us challenges would keep us strong and healthy on our path.

So as you figure out your path, be teachable. .

The process isn’t all written in the books. Sometimes, you find them on the path.

What’s your special sauce?
There is special touch we all bring to the party of life. It’s our signature it’s the things we do easily people wonder how we pull it off.
Subtle as they may seem they represent us. Most of them are skills we have horned some are traits we wing naturally bottom line most come naturally but are unique to us alone . ..
We can easily wing it however here is the magic,this special sauce is seen and felt more by people who have known us for a while.

So take this challenge and ask your tribe to tell you your own special sauce take time to listen and let’s talk about it. Ask 3.

One of the best things to happen to you on your journey is to crack your own coconut code .
Cracking your own code here means figuring out which part you would take if money and time weren’t an issue?
It also means the secret formula to finally acing everything after several attempts of trying.

You see, as you grow and finally have everything you wished for there is the role of aligning your inner core to whichever part we choose.

No dispute, however, the fact you have clients means you are a priority on their list to take you seriously.
Oil your wheels.
Treat you as An A-list client first which means attending to your issues first and making sure you as a client is happy then dive into your list of other VIP’s and give them the treat of their lives…
In the grand scheme of things if you keep putting other VIP clients before you, soon you would likely burn out and those clients would look out for the one who follows this simple rule
No hard feelings…
Or if you are indispensable like you assume then everyone loses when you as a client ain’t taken good care of as an A-client


Take care of you


One of the many believes as we grow up and belong to organizations is that the strength we have belonging to groups,  and cliques can  help us be more especially those that think like us

However, a research says we might actually need more of weak ties to make that leap from point A to Point B. In the words of Charles Duhigg in his masterpiece “Power of Habits” he cites several instances where the power of weak ties spoke more compared to familiar strong ties. One memorable instance was the Bus Boycott led by Rosa Parks in the united states of America.

Findings were clear that though Rosa Parks was in the A-league among her community influencers the driving force and momentum to start the bus boycott movement move was the combination of the weak and strong ties which wasn’t her network.Mainly the weak ties did the Magic. When strong ties of friendship and weak ties of peer pressure meet, they create amazing momentum which normally leads to Amaze- ball social change.

“ Sometimes our weak-tie acquaintances are more influential than our close tie individuals. Without weak-ties, We will be deprived of information of the social system and be confined to the provincial news and views of only close friends… This deprivation would not only insulate them from the latest ideas and fashions but may put them in a disadvantaged position in the labor market.without weak ties, any momentum generated does not spread beyond the clique”

” Culled from The Power of Habits Charles Duhigg

weak ties for starters are relationships between members of different groups aside ours for instance. you would likely find an architect in the circle of his kind or some Engineers and would be strange finding him in the midst of fashion designers or musicians.

Come to think of it the weak ties bring in a new kind of audience, help spread our message and opportunities more to different spheres

I personally have had  feedback from the effect of getting new insights from my weak ties compared to my natural pond of strong ties which led me to share this  which means you must go out of your own pond and have a mixture… your pond would not give you all you ask for and that has nothing to do with  they being great  its a natural law.

As a tech developer it’s time to go out of your own pond and create new fraternity with guys from the other side the world is more than tech and vice versa we sure need each other.

Weak ties often give us access to the social network where we don’t think necessary otherwise we would always play the safe card in a save pond and this is time to leave the safe pond to create a massive movement which we all need.

So this is me to you Weak ties are Lit !! Let’s embrace them create mixtures and create amazing memories of a solid movement!!

Its the new year and what better way to start than with the 21 day plan.


You may have heard a popular catchphrase that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Science and real-world experience tells us that it actually takes a MINIMUM of 21 days, but on average between 60 to 90 days. So, for most people, 90 days (or 3 months or 12 weeks—however you look at it) is a much more effective and realistic timeframe to incorporate a new behavior into your life.


This is how it works   normally it’s a proven research by science and real world experience that when humans practice a habit consistently(ritually) for 21 days the body and the mind most times gets used to it. Meaning it sticks .Then when they  carry it  out  this same act for 90 days  which is  like  3 months it doesn’t just become a habit it becomes a lifestyle. . So let’s say you  start  consistently for 21 days  and make it takes between 60 days to 90 days for it to be on cruise control.  For anyone who has tried this the key experience isn’t even in the numbers but mostly on what you are fast becoming   so lets assume you don’t make it in 21 days or 90 days which is normally rare you definitely would not be the same person you were when you .Started especially if you had an accountability partner and took note of the changes observed this period.

No  this isn’t about My TED Talk but you should really watch it here

I come from the part of the world where  we almost joke about  everything these days the memes on social media alone could lead you into how much creative juice we have left on the table without converting…memes that were both hilarious and struck a chord. One of such memes left a deep impression.

What would your TED talk be like?

For starters, TED is an acronym for Technology Entertainment and Design owned by  sapling foundation led by it curator Media entrepreneur Chris Anderson   All over the world the TED stage is like the Eldorado for the best Speakers, innovators, Influencers   change agents you name it …who literally have an idea worth sharing.

So if you were given the opportunity to stand on this spotlight and the whole world was meant to listen as your audience for you speak to them, what would your message worth sharing be about?

What in your journey do you think the world would learn from and when you figure out what it is, that should be your TED talk.  Scratch that, that should be your message and you don’t necessarily need a TED Stage.

Personally I think I had toiled with the thought of what mine was prior to Prior to mine  so it was not completely a struggle when I had my shot. My generation had more young people who thought they needed permission to live their dreams and I thought differently of how the world had changed and how emasculated young people have become with strategic collaborations and something as ordinary like a laptop and internet. I’ve seen the magic and still see the magic happen you are normally unstoppable.

A friend  I got talking to  had this to share when I popped up the question to him   “ I would talk about laziness and how it can completely stop you from  achieving your goals” It sounded cliché until I asked Why laziness? And he shared his story and did it make sense? Too much sauce!!  It happens he was in that Laziness cycle till he made some moves which took him to a different league where he is now and acing it.

He alone knows that feeling so if I dint probe further I would have misunderstood what  this  meant to him. So it is for what your own uniqueness is. You don’t need to sound like the rest of us. Come to think of it weird on that stage of life is the new cool and those who are weird enough to tell us how very important their own weird is wins.

What were your lessons learnt?

Feel free to re-engineer .

And yes Break your own coconut!






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